Cora, Germany - firstname.lastname@example.org
I suffered from coccydynia since the birth of my second daughter in December 2015. She was sunny side up and a very fast birth (40 minutes, yeah). The pain was terrible, I was lying on the back (the midwives told me to stand up, but the little baby was too deep down). Two hours after the delivery I started to feel this strange pain on my bottom. And then I realized: I couldn't sit or stand or walk or lie down without pain.
The doctors and the midwives in the clinic told me to wait; it could be the episiotomy or so.
But the pain was every day more worse. An Osteopath tried to correct it, but it was only slightly better.
Six weeks after the birth I visited a orthopedist. He told me that there was nothing and it would be all in my head. In my head or not: the pain was still terrible.
Weeks later I visited another Orthopedist: An X-Ray showed that the tailbone was like an L into the body. And an MRI showed that it was broken. The second Orthopedist was nice, but he said, it is likely that I will suffer all my life with these chronic pain and therefore I should learn to deal with it. Only time could help. So I gave it time… and time… and time. Did I mention: Time?
But after a year of terrible pain I was at a loose end and almost in a deep depression.
Thanks for www.coccyx.org I knew that there was hope and there were places I could find the real healing. (I did not want painkiller-injections or a cutting of the tailbone - but I understand anyone who would want to try this, only to be painfree…)
After a short E-Mail-contact with Michael Durtnall from Sayer Clinic (see Doctors and specialists in the UK, London). I visited him. (Although it sounds quite crazy to travel for a not-really-rich woman from Germany to a private clinic in England…)
What can I say: he was very nice, very competent - and spoke quite frankly, that I have to start moving. For my tailbone and for my crappy posture. He was right, of course.
My tailbone was stiff and crooked to the right. That explained, why the pain was only on the right side of my body…
My first visit was in February 2017: I was four days in London and he treated me every day internal. It's not the nicest feeling, but it was ok and he was very relaxed and made it less awkward. My husband was in some appointments with me, but this was also ok for everybody. I guess circa two week after the visit I was feeling less pain, maybe 20 to 40 percent better.
My second visit was in March 2017: Again stayed for several days and appointments, now also with other stuff from the clinic. And again: The pain was going less and less, after I was some days back in Germany (70-80%)
Since April I work on a desk, which height is adjustable. That helped too. Now in May 2017 I would say, that I'm on some days almost painfree (mostly sunny, warm days). On rainy or very stressful days on the other hand I'm feeling every move (or not move) of the tailbone. But the better days are in the excess.
My advice to everybody with Tailbone-Problems: Don't think too much about money and journey: Go to London and find there the right help! You have only one life, but chronic pain makes that miserable and that is terrible for everybody.
I plan to visit Michael again, maybe in July, when I have some free days at work (I'm working fulltime, my husband too and we have two little kids to look after).
And I will write here again, to let you know, how it is going on with my tailbone.
My last posting is from 2017 - in these crazy days it really seemed like an age ago. Jon tried to reach me, but his email must have landed in the spamfilter - and then life happened... Anyway: Here I am with an update of my story.
In Summer 2017 I visited the Sayers Clinic for the last time - it helped again a lot, and I was feeling much better. This was thanks to Michael but also to Marta De Oliveira, who then worked there and was/ still is specialised for pelvic issues. This is so great about the Clinic: You get the whole package you need to treat this pain in the a.. - well, you know. Michael treated the bone and surroundings, Marta gave me practice to do and talked with me about food and bowel movement. Both talked about my more or less crappy posture... They were right. And yes: All the trips and the sessions were not cheap, but I think you all know, how terrible, how devastating a live with this kind of pain is.
2018 we renovated a house (before the clinic I would never thought, I could do such things ...), so there was no time and money to get back. Also my pain almost disappeared, that I really do not need to came back. Of course my body is getting older and back pain is always around the corner. But now I know things and know to handle the pain.
Here are my totally personally tips:
- I try to eat healthy, avoid industrial sugar, and white flour. The sugar thing is really spooky: My pain is almost non-existent when I cut it out.
- I am no vegan nor an vegetarian, but I'm not keen on meat also, so I try to reduce meat and eat vegetables or soya instead.
- I'm sitting not straight on the toilet - and I do not "press things"...
- I drink a lot.
- I try to think about my posture - in times of home office an the kitchen table it is way harder, but
- My gym is closed due to lockdown, but I try to go every day for a walk.
- I try not to forget the bad times, so I can appreciate the good days more.
- Therefore: I enjoy my time with the family: we do things together, cuddle and we bought a playstation game called "Just dance" which is silly, but keeps you moving...
Sometimes, most on cold days or when I was lazy with my food and sport I feel my coccyx. But the things I feel now can not compared with the pain I felt the two years after the birth.
I hope also, that when the Covid-19-Pandemic is over - and one day it will be - and the brexit-rules are clear (well...), I will come back to London and show my efforts.
So, my story ends with an happy-end. I really wish all of you the same.